'I'm literally providing for her unemployed son': Woman lashes out at future mother-in-law for calling her a Gold Digger

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Ben Weiss • Writer and Editor
Apr 29, 2023 1:00 AM EDT

If there's one thing you should never imply to this woman, it's that she's a gold digger. Especially when it's the polar opposite of the truth. This woman has been supporting her fiancé for four months now after he lost his job, but he was too chicken to tell his wealthy parents. On top of that, he never intervened when his parents repeatedly implied that the Redditor was using their son for his money.

 

This thread was posted to Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole subreddit by u/aintsayinhea32, who recounted the moment in which she snapped at her future mother-in-law. According to the immortal judges of the AITA community, she was justified in her outrage. Our main takeaway here is not only that this woman is dealing with a horribly classist family, but also that her fiancé is weak. If he's not stepping up for her now, he never will. Get out while you still can!

 

Keep scrolling below to read the full story. For more wedding drama, check out this post about a bridezilla who kicked a server out of her wedding.

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  • 01
    Font - AITA for telling my fiance's family that he's unemployed after they kept implying that I was a "Gold Digger?" So, My fiance (m33) comes from a well off family, I (f29) come from a working class family. My fiance's family are nice but they can't help throwing comments at me about how I "might be" a "Gold Digger". For example, if he buys me something they'll go "oh Jason bought you that? You know what this looks like right?" And/or "Wait, Jason paid for this? Only gold diggers make their pa
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    Font - Last week, His parents invited us for dinner and he insisted that we go so we went. At dinner table his mom grabbed my hand (literally while I was eating!!) And looked at my bracelet and went "Oh, this bracelet looks really nice, did Jason pay for it?" I nodded and reminded her that he bought it for me as a birthday gift last year. She was like "hmmmm, wonder how much it costs....." she then leaned back and said "You know I remember when my brother was dating this gold digger woman...she'
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    Font - She threw her hands up and went "I mean...if the shoe fits...." while laughing awkwardly. Silence took over. I looked at my fiance and he shook his head at me like "what?!?!?!" I snapped!!. I told her it was bold of her to imply I was a Gold Digger when I'm literally providing for her unemployed son, have been for 4 months now. They all looked shocked. She glanced at me in shock and his dad asked if it was true and my fiance just froze but looked so angry. An argument ensued and dinner wa
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    Font - He had a rage fit in the car just yelling and lashing at me. In my defense, I said that he sat by and let his mom continuelly imply that I was a Gold Digger but he said that they never outright called me a Gold Digger so it was all in my head. He said I still had no right to take advantage of his "unfortunate circumstance" to get back at his mom and expose him to the family. His parents went on about how disappointed they were and now as a result, he got disinvited from Thanksgiving. He b
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    Font - SadderOlderWiser 3 hr. ago 2 S Colo-rectal Surgeon [47] NTA - I think you should uninvite your fiancé from your wedding. He doesn't have your back, he's willing to lie to his family for months to protect his reputation (he's going to be willing to lie to you, too) and this won't be the last time he blames you for the faults and actions of himself and others. 8.1k Reply Share
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    Font - Just Wednesday100. 3 hr. ago edited 2 hr. ago Seriously! Don't walk down that *aisle! he's more than willing to have you be the bad guy and not once has he tried to fix their perspective of you. Instead he keeps it that way because it makes him seem better than you. If you have a baby with him guess what? You're the golddigger that baby trapped him. Do you really want to listen to that? Edited for a users sanity 1.4k Reply Share
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    Font - Catacombs3 3 hr. ago .. NTA. I have to ask, do you see a future with this guy? He has no loyalty to you and is content to sit by and let his family disrespect you. When they get angry with him, it is your fault. Imagine how much worse this dynamic will be if you have children with him. He will allow his family to treat you like and teach your kids that you are unworthy of respect and dignity. I'd toss him before he makes your life a misery. 1.8k Reply Share
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    Font - o Fluffy-Shelter-1258 · 3 hr. ago This! Not one person at that table sees you as wife material. That's why the mother is trying to chase you away(and label you as an evil money grabbing wife). Amd your partner isn't defending you and demonstrating WHAT A GOOD WIFE YOUD BE, as you've shown him during his hard times If you don't dump him, you're gonna be one of those women who gets dumped then sees the marriage announcement to a "proper girl" in 6 months 407 Reply Share
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    Font - Laye CrystalQueen3000 - 3 hr. ago Judge, Jury, and Excretioner [330] ΝΤΑ An "innocent bystander"? Lol. This guy was happy to watch his family be cruel to you for months without challenging it or sticking up for you when he knows full well that you're currently the breadwinner. He's a flaming AH. He doubled down and made it all your fault when you called him out on it. Is this really who you want to marry? Really? 1.2k Reply Share
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    Font - KurlyKayla 3 hr. ago "My fiance's family is nice, but they constantly make passive aggressive comments about me being a gold digger and shun their own son for being unemployed, who in turn says nothing while his parents verbally abuse me." OP you're not the AH, but you might want to think long and hard about joining a family like this. 875 Reply Share
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    Font - dominiquetiu 2 hr. ago Partassipant [1] "Nice" is not when they more than imply, and are in fact, quite overt, with calling her a "gold-digger." Had I heard any indication of this chatter from my partner's family, I'd hightail it out of there. Not quite sure how this partner became a fiancé... don't think the dude has any redeeming qualities if his family is this presumptuous and snooty, and he does nothing to correct it.
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    Font - NTA but you will be if you carry on being with someone who would rather have you take the fall for his own ego. Imagine a lifetime with that person. ⇓⇓ Marinara siz
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    Organism - Eeyore8 1 hr. ago Who uninvited their own child from a holiday dinner Bc they lost their job? WTF?
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    Font - adityarj_pazuzu. 3 hr. ago Partassipant [1] She is definitely stupid if she thinks this is ever going to work
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    Rectangle - Melmoth_Milton - 3 hr. ago edited 3 hr. ago 2 3 Certified Proctologist [28] NTA. Let's break this down. My fiance's family are nice but But they're clearly not nice at all. It's so demeaning and my fiance does nothing to stop it. Your fiance is an AH. Why are you engaged to someone who will stand there and let you be abused in front of him and do nothing?
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    Font - She threw her hands up and went "I mean...if the shoe fits...." Jason's family are complete and total AHs, are you sure you want to spend the rest of your life with these people?? I told her it was bold of her to imply I was a Gold Digger when I'm literally providing for her unemployed son, have been for 4 months now. Good for you! Well done for standing up for yourself. You said absolutely nothing wrong, and every word is the truth.
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    Font - He had a rage fit in the car just yelling and lashing at me. Another couple of red flags, here. He's obviously been lying to them and hasn't told them about the loss of his job, who knows what he tells them about you?! And the the fact that he's lashing out at you for protecting yourself, another red flag. And his rage, another red flag.
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    Font - he said that they never outright called me a Gold Digger so it was all in my head. Gaslighting you. Another huge red flag the size of Australia. He blew up at me because of it this morning and kept saying I screwed him over so badly when he was just an innocent bystander. Oof. PLEASE PLEASE google DARVO.
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    Font - PLEASE listen. These are all HUGE red flags- and not 'we can make up and this will be a cute story in five years' kind of events, huge red flags that will likely end up with 'I should have never married this man, he's ruined my entire life'.
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    Font - Molly, you in danger girl. RUN. RUN RUN RUN. Get away from this man and this family as fast as you can. Block them all, and find someone who will respect you and treat you well. You're better than this. You deserve better than this. DO NOT MARRY THIS MAN. Kick him out of your flat and block him completely. 603 Reply Share
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